Life on your terms
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Designing a life you love: the systems, techniques and tools to create a lifestyle that truly reflects who you are
You’re on the way to what is expected of you. Yet you feel something is missing. You can’t help but feel there is more to life. You find yourself becoming anxious and unhappy. Some struggle through it. Others, like Lewis Connell, stop to ask what else there could be and whether a more fulfilling life is possible.
In his new book, Living life on your terms, he shares his experience of crashing to a halt, finding his inner direction and finding a system to put his dreams into practice. He has written this book for all those unsure of their direction and who want to live more authentically, not just by discovering their why, but by building a system around it.
It took him years to find his own way through the puzzle of living his dreams every day. In this book, he condenses all those hours of experience, research and experimentation into a four-step process through which you can discover and sustain your own version of the path to a deeply fulfilling life..
The problem Most of us start our adult lives by trying to meet everyone else’s expectations, but it can feel hollow if we are not achieving on our own terms. Soon enough, it seems that we are living on autopilot, wearing a variety of different hats and accepting a life that’s ‘good enough’.
It’s a pattern that is hard to break. Our brains are wired to keep us safe, but as our lives move beyond meeting our basic needs, we can begin to override the default survival mode setting. We might have the freedom to shape our own thoughts, beliefs and lives, but there’s only one problem: no one has taught us how to do it. The courage to fully embrace a self-directed life is hard to find. For Lewis, it doesn’t come from a single habit or insight; instead, it flows from a more deep-rooted belief within ourselves that lets is break free from what is holding us back.
The book
After completely redesigning his own life. Lewis started to hear story after story from people who also wanted to turn things around. They felt like their lives were missing something; maybe they were stuck in a career they didn’t enjoy or they simply felt like they weren’t as happy as they could be. No matter who he spoke to, one phrase kept repeating itself: ‘this can’t be it for the rest of my life’. Life on Your Terms is his response. It is about how to stop living by the expectations of others and start designing a life that’s truly yours. It empowers readers to take control of their direction, decisions and destiny. It took him years to find his own way through the puzzle of self-discovery and creating real-life change. In this book, he condenses all those hours of experience, research and experimentation into a four-step process which you can use to discover and sustain your own path to a deeply fulfilling life. This isn’t about chasing success or happiness: it’s about living intentionally, balancing self-healing with self-improvement and building a life that feels meaningful from the inside out
• 'Life on Your Terms: Designing a life you love' by Lewis Connell, Novaro Publishing, May 2026, ISBN: 978-1-0685644-2-0. See here for details.
